Everyone has that one friend in their life at one point or another uses them as the scapegoat. Especially if that friend is married, and all they want is their single life back or to, at least try and have both.

This is usually a common trait in the traditional male role. The Alpha Male/Beta Male marries the woman he gets pregnant to do the right thing. Or will marry early to fulfill a family obligation or cultural conditioning programmed at birth by tradition, carry on a legacy whatever you refer to it?

Some People will marry out of necessity to quite literally keep their career life stable. Men will receive far better pay in general if they are hitched, they will have more opportunities for promotion, and earn much more than women because society sees them as the breadwinners the head of the household to protect and serve the family.

Marriage is a way to earn more respect from peers and communities, and not to minimize it, more or less fit in with popular stereotypes between those people who have a family to take care of and those who do not. Those Men who marry out of a sense of obligation, tradition, or a sense of duty tend to harbor a lot of underlying resentment.

Feeling as if their sexual prowess is being stunted. Some Sexual appetites never subside but the reason for this is not the unattractiveness or staleness of a current situation. It comes from a deep feeling of insecurity on the part of the person who is always in constant need of validation and attention. This trait fits many emotionally immature men we often refer to as Peter Pans who at the age of 80 are still emotionally wired like a 15-year-old boy.

In this case, the emotionally stunted Angel of Death and Destruction in the Dark is a Real-life woman.

This Angel of Death. She is sweet and nurturing or is she a controlling, overbearing narcissist? I will let you be the judge.

There are clues to figuring out a person’s intention in your life. What they refer to in Poker as a “Tell”. Some people have a “tell”. Their addictions, their Insecurity, and their lack of education. Or just lack of a soul.

These types of people don’t enter relationships with others to share common interests travel or even have any sort of meaningful conversations with you or anyone else.

They simply do not have it in them. They are not emotionally intelligent, nor are they intellectual. They are easily swayed to do things, have no boundaries, and most often are burying themselves in one to five different addictions. Avoiding at all costs true healing, and downright refusing to look at themselves at the soul level; however, they have no issue looking at their reflection in the mirror all day long.

Tragically, they have no idea how to show up in a place of integrity with the world around them.

These Types of People ( Characters) are SIMPLY put, “TRANSACTIONAL” at the basic level of humanity. Let’s call them bottom-feeders or empty vessels. Trying to fill themselves up with everything and everyone else.

If you let them in as I have on so many occasions I have lost count.. and you allow them to, they will without QUESTION wreak havoc on YOUR life.

They befriend you because they see in you something that they want. Whether it is your energy or the attention you get when you go out with them. Your connections in the world. Even Your essence. Some people want to get to know you and will be so kind to you which is a form of LOVE -bombing just to try and be “Like You” copying your style, your hobbies, your everything. Then when they have worn you down or you have opened yourself up to them trusting that they are a special and good person whom you are so lucky to have in your life they will start to take. Little by little at first.

That is where it started when I met the “Angel Of Death” and you can see where it often leads if you allow it…….

“I wanted to admire this couple and perhaps even put them on a pedestal because from the outside looking in. They had it all. The Nice House in the Hills, Luxury Cars and multiple homes, Frequent travel, and renewing their vows every year. IT WAS A FACADE. The reason I know. I was the scapegoat. If I was traveling for work in another state. The Angel of Death would not come to see me to meet me for dinner or to go shopping or skiing or anything fun with me.  No, she was only interested in having me as a friend so that when she wanted to go out of town to meet one of her many extramarital affairs I was the person she told her loyal and faithful devoted wealthy husband that she was with me. aka- THE SCAPEGOAT

 For years I had to carry this sick feeling every time I was invited to dinner with the two of them. The husband was well-educated. Very intelligent and knew how to carry a conversation. Which was the complete opposite of the Angel of Death. What became unbearable for me was the thought of her husband thinking that I was always pulling her away for some emergency or crisis painting me in a negative light while all along she was lying to his face on the daily to maintain the 5 flings she had going on some of which she flaunted in his actual face. Parading her male instructor disguised as a friend who needs female advice and would invite him to the house for dinner, They would sit at the dinner table and she was secretly sleeping with him. The straw that broke the camel’s back for me was the out-of-state affair I met him on the regular when they would meet me out of town where I was working. He was also married and his wife was unaware. I thought to myself this isn’t my life so what she does is her business. This is how I dealt with being a part of someone’s toxicity. However; When the out-of-state affair we will call him the San Francisco Treat divorced his wife and uprooted his entire life to buy a house in the next hillside neighborhood from the Angel of Death and her husband. I was reaching my breaking point. I did not have any said Loyalty to Angel of Death’s husband and she seemed to always keep the two of us at a distance from each other. I know she would feed him lies about me and my life to make me appear to be less than her so he and I would never become close enough for him to see the truth of what he was living day to day. Angels of Death are sneaky and they are always manipulating and strategizing.

The last time I ever saw or spoke to the Angel Of Death she was juggling the out-of-state affair who is now their new neighbor, and if that wasn’t enough deceit for one person she started sleeping with San Francisco Treat’s Best Friend who lives out of state. And get this. the married best friend who is her new out-of-state lineup talks to the San Francisco Treat on the regular.   If that isn’t a REAL LIFE Episode directed by David Kelly on HBO or STARZ - I don’t know what else it is. Luckily,  I escaped before the House Of Cards Falls. I would have been a part of the clean up and it was not my mess to begin with. 

THE LESSON: WHEN PEOPLE AROUND YOU DO NOT HAVE BOUNDARIES DON’T THINK BC YOU DO THEIR TOXICITY WON’T BLEED INTO YOUR LIFE PATH & ENERGY. CUT ANYONE OUT THAT DOES NOT RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE - PERIOD. FAMILY OR OTHERWISE.”